Inspired by Wayne Bennett

Two weeks ago, all boys in the College gathered in the hall after classes to welcome Wayne Bennett and listen to him tell a little of his own life story as well as give us some advice on how we may approach our own lives.

Although most known as one of Australia’s best rugby league coaches in history, Wayne Bennett has also become a popular public figure due to his own family experiences and the huge respect and loyalty that all those who meet him have developed for him. The episode of Australian Story which featured Wayne Bennett has become the most viewed of the series.

Bennett’s speech to the boys was outstanding. I could write pages of ideas and thoughts that came from his talk to the boys. There were, however, a few key things that kept coming up in what he had to say. One of the comments that he made several times came back to our perception of ourselves. He encouraged the boys to not waste a minute comparing themselves to others. He went on to say that God made us all different and this is something that we should value, rather than try and make ourselves just like someone else. He also stressed to the boys the importance of not worrying about what you don’t have. No one can have everything or be good at everything. Look at what you do have and what you can do and use that to the best of your ability.

As someone who loves quotes myself, Wayne Bennett certainly gave me my daily dose and in keeping with the theme above, he quoted, “True nobility lies not in being better than someone else, rather it lies in being better than your previous self”. This is something that he spoke a lot about, focusing on self improvement which essentially comes from self awareness. He highlighted how important small improvements are and in doing so quoted Pope John XXIII who wrote, “See everything, overlook a great deal, correct a little”.

In order to achieve these improvements, Bennett explained to the boys how important self discipline was. He described discipline as being “the ability to do things that you don’t want to do”.

The final message that Bennett tried to impress upon the boys was the important of your values being non-negotiable. In his case, he believes that values of people can be broadly summed up by (1) trust, (2) taking responsibility rather than looking to blame and (3) character. It was the last of these, character, which he was able to sum up so simply as “who you are and what you do when no one is watching”.

The humble manner in which Wayne Bennett approaches everything he does is superb. His words to the boys were simply inspirational and we were all exceptionally privileged to be able to have him join us and pass on to us so much of his wisdom.

Photo 1: Wayne Bennett addressing the boys

Photo 2: A Year 11 boy taking the photo opportunity with one of the legends of Australian sport.

Wannabe a Wallaby

A few weeks ago a few of our Full Boarders were lucky enough to have the opportunity to go to the Wallabies match against the Springboks at ANZ Stadium – the opening match of the Tri-Nations for 2011. The tickets were donated by an anonymous parent who simply asked for us to invite a few boys who deserved the experience and would really enjoy it.

So Joseph McCarthy (Fiji), Jacob Goodwin (Dubbo) and Lachlan Day (Wagga Wagga) headed out to Homebush for what turned out to be a great night for the Wallabies. A 39-20 win ensured a great start to the Tri-Nations campaign and a wonderful experience for the boys who enjoyed the atmosphere, the rugby and a superb performance by fellow Joe-Boy Kurtley Beale.

In typical fashion, we ran into many other Joeys families at the stadium from across all year groups, staff and old-boys. One of which was the family of Jack O’Brien (Walgett) who also enjoyed the Wallabies win and brush with fame at the end of the game – as you can see from the photo below!

Photo 1: Joe McCarthy, Lachlan Day and Jacob Goodwin enjoy their outing to the Wallabies first test in the Tri-Nations.

Photo: Lachlan Day, Jack O’Brien and Jacob Goodwin hang out with Wallabies centre Adam AShley-Cooper. Note that Joe McCarthy was off collecting his 250 seat cushions from around the stadium!

Big Day Out

Head of the River - 1One of the unique things about Joeys is the manner in which the whole school rally behind each other. We place a huge emphasis on gathering together as a community in a variety of events where we make it compulsory for all boys to attend. Included in these events are Academic nights, Family Masses, Music Ensemble Evenings, Year Dinners and sporting fixtures. Each of these represent a different aspect of College Life, however, together they give us an opportunity to gather and celebrate our community.

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The Head of the River is just one of these events but certainly is a great chance for the Year 7s to be introduced to our sporting culture of support no matter the result. We knew as we headed out to Penrith that it was going to be a tough day on the water for the rowers. Schools such as Sydney Grammar and Kings had shown strength across all age groups throughout the season. This in fact, only made our support more important. It is easy to celebrate when victory is achieved (and we have certainly had our fair share of this), however when the results don’t go in your favour, the support that a community provides is even more important.

Although the boys knew very few of the Joeys rowers, the day was an excellent example of how Joeys boys support their mates. Our support is always positive, it is consistent regardless of the result and it continues long after the race is finished. The boys also were able to develop an understanding of how important it is for us to stay grounded and congratulate the winners – there was no Joeys crew on the podium but staying to congratulate those who were is just so important.

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With a long bus trip there, some warm weather, lots of standing, even more cheering and then another longer bus trip back it was certainly a long day. Despite this, the boys’ behaviour in the Rally was superb as we welcomed the rowers back to the school and congratulated them on their wonderful efforts.

The Joeys culture is unique and spans so many different aspects of life. It is these compulsory activities which help the boys develop an understanding of this culture and in their own time – enhance the wonderful traditions of the College.

Photo 1:  Josh Flannery (Drummoyne) and Tom Brennan (Drummoyne) on the banks of Penrith Lakes.

Photo 2:  Callum Harris (Somersby), Rory Keady (Coonamble) and Ben Spencer (Barraba) wait for the next race to begin.

Photo 3:  Will Nicholls (West Pymble) catches up on some sleep using Aidan Quirk (Glenhaven) as his pillow.

Buddying Up

Buddies - 2For over 20 years now we have been running a buddy program at Joeys between Year 7 boys and Year 11 boys. The reason we choose to do the program with Year 11 is because they still have almost two years left at the College. This means that their connection with their Year 7 buddy can be longer lasting and more effective.

In the latter half of the term we had our first get-together with the buddies. It was an opportunity for the boys to meet their buddy and have a good chat to them. The Year 11 boys helped the Year 7s write a letter home (which hopefully most parents have received) which proved a wonderful way for the boys to get to know about each other as the letter prompted them to discuss many things that the boys did.

Buddies - 1The boys also travelled together to the Head of the River – again, another chance for the boys to spend some time together and get to know each other a little better.

Throughout the year there will be several formal opportunities for the boys to spend time with their buddies. The hope is that the Year 11 boys will also organise a few informal opportunities to catch up and see how the Year 7 boys are going.

The buddy program has varied successes for different boys. For some, the older connection is very important and helps them greatly in settling in – for others, they may only see their buddy every so often. This is an individual difference and at the very least, the boys have the opportunity to pursue this as much as they wish to.

It was great to see the boys all talking so freely and getting to know each other’s friends – here’s hoping that it is the beginning of a longer lasting friendship that crosses the boundary of age.

Photo 1:  Justin Young (Concord West) getting help with his letter from his Year 11 buddy.

Photo 2:  Jacob Sleiman (Hunters Hill) sizes up with his Year 11 buddy.

An Unforgettable Day

Every so often you have an experience that you are likely to remember for a very long time. That occurred during the term as we took a special day off school to celebrate St Joseph’s Day.

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After a fantastic day in 2010, we decided that Jamberoo would once again be the perfect way for the boys to celebrate the day. So we booked the venue for over 300 boys and piled on 7 coaches to head south. Yep, it was raining, however after speaking to the staff at Jamberoo they explained as it was a water park, schools still attended when it was raining.

Well it was certainly a water park on the day we were there!

Upon arriving at the park the boys wasted no time in heading onto the slides and into the rock pool. Within minutes, the boys were having a ball as the rain that fell became un-noticeable to the boys who were wet anyway. So long as there was no thunder and lightening then there wouldn’t be an issue … well, so we thought.

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After just over an hour in the park we were approached by the staff at Jamberoo who warned us that the area was flooding-in and unless we got out quickly then we could get stuck.

Get out quickly … easier said than done when there are 300 boys spread across several acres of a fun park. Nevertheless, we took their advice and got all the kids in, checked we had them all and then got them onto buses. And so 7 buses headed back to Sydney.

That was, until the drivers all hit closed roads. The fear of the park officials came into fruition … we simply could not get out of the area. As a result the buses headed back to the Jamberoo car park which was on higher land. This was all buses except one which had left first and got out of Jamberoo only to get stuck in Albion Park.

RainSo, with the rain pelting down and the boys on the buses there was nothing to do but wait. The advice from the local Police was stay where we were and once the water drops see how you go. When I asked how long this may be I got told anything from between 30 minutes to four hours. Worst case scenario … stay overnight.

The staff at Jamberoo were outstanding. After about an hour in the buses, we were able to get the boys into the Jamberoo restaurant. After relaying the six buses up to the restaurant (which took over half an hour) we then had just under 300 boys packed into the much appreciated shelter.

All the while, the Albion Park bus was still not able to move and sat in a car-park next to Woolworths. One of our staff, Mr Cox, headed into Woolies who agreed to provide the boys with bread and water free of charge. This was very welcome as all the food was on the other six buses.

6th-roadBack at Jamberoo the staff fired up the deep-friers and stoves and made hot chips, fish cocktails and hot chocolate for the boys. They just kept cooking as the seemingly never ending line of Joeys boys processed past their counters. This was all very welcome to the boys who in many cases were still wet, cold and missing items of clothing.

Just before 5pm we got word that the roads were open but were likely to close within the next half hour. This was our opportunity to make a break. It was a small window of opportunity but the RTA gave us the go ahead and we made the most of it. We piled the boys back onto the buses and again headed off. This time getting each of the buses through the low areas of Jamberoo and Albion Park and onto the water-safe freeway. Likewise the bus stuck in Albion Park got the go-ahead and headed through Wollongong.

We arrived back at Joeys just after 7pm – only two hours after the scheduled time. We may have only been two hours late but believe me … it was more than two hours of a challenge!

There are many people that need to be thanked for helping out in these exceptional circumstances.

Firstly the Joeys staff. Our staff agreed to go to Jamberoo knowing it was a longer day for them than other staff going to other venues. It turned out to be a monster of a day that required ongoing work from all staff and I can’t thank them enough for being there and helping the boys on the day — getting volunteers for next year may be a challenge but I will cross that bridge when I get to it!

The staff at Jamberoo were outstanding. They looked after us, cooked for us and couldn’t have been more helpful. They were stuck too and had every right to be worried, frustrated or annoyed. They showed none of this and displayed first class hospitality at all times. Thanks also to the managers at Woolies in Albion Park who helped out with bread and water.

Our bus drivers were fantastic. They kept us up to date with what was happening on the roads and likewise showed amazing patience with boys getting on and off their buses soaking wet and eating on the buses. They were friendly and made the whole experience much easier.

Jamberoo - 3Finally to the boys. It was a day that promised so much and delivered so much – just not what we expected. The boys were so positive, calm, sensible and cooperative. I couldn’t be happier with the way they handled the situation and commend them for their efforts. It was an experience that tested their maturity … and they passed with flying colours!

As strange as the day was, I was flabbergasted to hear boys talk so positively about the experience. They saw the whole thing as quite exciting and in most cases seemed to enjoy it! As you can see from the photo of Luke … there was plenty to be tired about!

So what else is there to say … except … it was great to say goodbye to you Jamberoo – see you next year!

Photo 1 & 2:  Jamberoo Recreation Park as we arrived.

Photo 3:  The rain pelts down in Jamberoo

Photo 4:  The roads flood and stop our buses from going any further.

Photo 5:  Luke Hanigan (Coonamble) gets some ‘shut-eye’ on the way home after a long long day!